The Top 10 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Get Pregnant (And What to Do Instead)
If you're trying to get pregnant and it’s taking longer than you expected—or if you’re just starting your TTC (trying to conceive) journey—this blog is for you.
As a fertility-focused Chinese medicine practitioner with a 99% success rate in helping women conceive, I’ve seen firsthand the most common mistakes women make when it comes to getting pregnant. These aren’t just little missteps—they’re often the exact things holding you back from conception.
Let’s get into the top 10 and how to course-correct now.
1. Not Tracking Ovulation Correctly
Many women rely solely on period-tracking apps, but most apps guess ovulation based on past cycles. Unless you're using an integrated tracker like Natural Cycles with BBT or LH testing, you’re likely missing your fertile window.
What to do instead:
Use LH test strips to detect your ovulation surge.
Confirm ovulation with Basal Body Temperature (BBT) tracking.
Look for egg white cervical mucus—a natural fertility sign.
2. Assuming Your Cycle Is "Regular"
A "normal" cycle is 28 days, with no PMS symptoms, cramping, spotting, or extreme fatigue. Many women assume their symptoms are normal just because they’re common.
What to watch for:
PMS, cramps, bloating, spotting = not normal
Early or very late ovulation = not ideal
Long or short cycles can mean hormonal imbalances
When to get help:
If you’ve been trying for 3–4 months without success—get support. Don’t wait a year if something feels off.
3. Following Restrictive Diets or Intermittent Fasting
Your body needs fuel to make hormones and grow a baby. Low-carb diets, fasting, or eating too little sends a signal that there’s not enough nourishment to sustain pregnancy.
What to do instead:
Eat 3 full meals a day, plus snacks if hungry
Include carbs, fats, and protein at every meal
Avoid extreme cleanses or trendy restrictive diets
4. Over-Exercising
Intense workouts can deplete your energy and hormones. Your body interprets high physical stress as a signal that it’s not safe to conceive.
Try instead:
Swap HIIT or long cardio for gentle movement: walking, yoga, Pilates, and strength training
Focus on restorative activities that support your nervous system
5. Using Saunas or Sweating to “Detox”
Sweating it out doesn’t detox your reproductive system—it depletes hydration and Yin, which includes fluids and hormones like estrogen and progesterone.
Better detox solution:
Nourish your liver and kidneys through food, hydration, and rest. Your body already knows how to detox—support it, don’t stress it.
6. Obsessing Over Getting Pregnant
Focusing only on baby-making can zap your joy and create pressure that’s counterproductive for your body, mind, and spirit.
What to do instead:
Do more of what brings you joy and lightness
Return to childhood passions (like dancing, painting, or reading)
Shift your energy from “I need this now” to “I’m already enough now”
7. Eating Cold Foods and Drinks
Smoothies, salads, yogurt bowls, iced coffee—these sound healthy, but from a Chinese medicine lens, they weaken digestion and reduce your body's ability to build blood and hormones.
Hot tip:
Focus on warm, cooked foods
Think: soups, stews, roasted veggies, warm teas
Cold foods slow your metabolism and deplete your core energy
8. Ignoring Your Mental Health
Your beliefs, thoughts, and emotional patterns shape your physical reality. If you believe getting pregnant is hard—or feel deep down that your body can't do it—it creates real blocks.
Mindset work includes:
Identifying and releasing limiting beliefs
Practicing trust in your body
Journaling, energy healing, and nervous system regulation
9. Not Making Space in Your Life for a Baby
Working 15-hour days, having a packed social calendar, or living at a breakneck pace can subconsciously send the message: “There’s no room here for a baby.”
Create space by:
Simplifying your schedule
Slowing down your routines
Making room emotionally, physically, and energetically for new life
10. Forgetting the Spiritual Side of Conception
Fertility isn’t just physical. There’s a third presence involved: your baby’s spirit.
How to connect:
Spend quiet time in meditation or prayer
Talk to your future baby (yes, really!)
Tune in to your inner knowing and intuition
Getting pregnant is about more than the right timing and tests—it’s about calling in a soul to join your family.
Final Thoughts
If you don’t make changes, you’ll never change.
That applies to your fertility, your health, and your life.
If any of these 10 mistakes sound familiar—don’t beat yourself up. You haven’t done anything wrong. But now that you know, it’s time to take aligned action.
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